Everything today has a 'tag' on it,whether it be a price to pay,an indicator of importance,a nickname,or one who is caught out being in the wrong place at the wrong time. Even criminals are excused real punishment after agreeing to wear an 'electronic tag'.
There is another type of 'tag' that is extremely hurtful,at whatever age. This is the tag of 'fat ridicule' that can take the target down from a great distance. Whether it's the playtime 'touch game' where you are first to be 'got',adult playful comment or just plain bullying. If you are 'fat tagged', you are a target figure and no matter how much you are able to rise above it, kid yourself that it doesn't matter, ridicule, major or minor,hurts big time.
The dinner guest, who insists on regaling the other friends with intimate details of his or her intrepid journeys into the darkest jungles of dieting and resultant loss of 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat), bears a similar yawn factor as the 'golfing bore' detailing the texture and color of the blade of grass that prevented his hole in 10. The 'fat tag' comes into play and it may be that guests will avoid you if you persist. Losing weight is very personal and it's only the visual end result that says it all. People will mostly be polite to you as not to be is impolite but if you are still heavily overweight and get the 'fat tag', just watch the dinner invitations dwindle. (may be a good thing actually?)
Everyone understands weight gain and the ease by which it happens. We instinctively admire those that lose weight sensibly. Without hesitation we approve and engage,as the proof of the pudding (so to speak) is standing in front of us. If you have lessened your weight,it shows! It shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. The effect is very much that of a 'desert flower' blossoming again as rain falls after a long hot drought. What is needed now is avoid the 'dessert' as much as possible with just an occasional visit.
Many circumstances arise when we are forced to view ourselves as others see us. Stripped bare of our clothed facade prior to daily bathing,lovemaking,beach lounging or just dressing,we see our 'bodily' self and our reaction might be to:- (1) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (2) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (3) Admire our-self and what we have physically achieved
Separation of the 'self' is of critical importance. This 'self' is our deep rooted personal identity in life and holds the keys to our mental well-being. Leave it to the psychologists to go deeper BUT if we see our-self as weak and submissive, that is what we become,if we see ourselves as a fighter who will not easily give up, that is what we become.
We mentally record a deep hurt if ridiculed,no matter if spoken or intimated in the banter of love. The pointed arrow hits an 'outwardly hidden' target. In our quiet reflective time the 'fat-tag' hurts deeply. Nightly despair quickly bleeds into the day's routine unless corrective action is taken. Each layer of fat added is measured in degrees of sadness whereas each layer lost causes disproportional elation..
Our self-esteem is badly damaged if we see our 'self' as anything other than 'up to scratch', being our self-measurement against others. We cannot all make millions but we can feel super-good about our 'self' and what we have achieved. So,where the 'fat tag' is concerned, we have to strip the fat and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh heavily on our minds.The trick is not to see our-self as impossibly overweight but possibly overweight. We can deal with 'possibly overweight' as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement.
There is another type of 'tag' that is extremely hurtful,at whatever age. This is the tag of 'fat ridicule' that can take the target down from a great distance. Whether it's the playtime 'touch game' where you are first to be 'got',adult playful comment or just plain bullying. If you are 'fat tagged', you are a target figure and no matter how much you are able to rise above it, kid yourself that it doesn't matter, ridicule, major or minor,hurts big time.
The dinner guest, who insists on regaling the other friends with intimate details of his or her intrepid journeys into the darkest jungles of dieting and resultant loss of 18 pounds (around 8 kilograms in metric fat), bears a similar yawn factor as the 'golfing bore' detailing the texture and color of the blade of grass that prevented his hole in 10. The 'fat tag' comes into play and it may be that guests will avoid you if you persist. Losing weight is very personal and it's only the visual end result that says it all. People will mostly be polite to you as not to be is impolite but if you are still heavily overweight and get the 'fat tag', just watch the dinner invitations dwindle. (may be a good thing actually?)
Everyone understands weight gain and the ease by which it happens. We instinctively admire those that lose weight sensibly. Without hesitation we approve and engage,as the proof of the pudding (so to speak) is standing in front of us. If you have lessened your weight,it shows! It shows in your talk,your walk,your confidence and self-esteem. The effect is very much that of a 'desert flower' blossoming again as rain falls after a long hot drought. What is needed now is avoid the 'dessert' as much as possible with just an occasional visit.
Many circumstances arise when we are forced to view ourselves as others see us. Stripped bare of our clothed facade prior to daily bathing,lovemaking,beach lounging or just dressing,we see our 'bodily' self and our reaction might be to:- (1) Shudder and shake our heads in disbelief at what we have become (2) Kid our-self that what we see is not that bad (3) Admire our-self and what we have physically achieved
Separation of the 'self' is of critical importance. This 'self' is our deep rooted personal identity in life and holds the keys to our mental well-being. Leave it to the psychologists to go deeper BUT if we see our-self as weak and submissive, that is what we become,if we see ourselves as a fighter who will not easily give up, that is what we become.
We mentally record a deep hurt if ridiculed,no matter if spoken or intimated in the banter of love. The pointed arrow hits an 'outwardly hidden' target. In our quiet reflective time the 'fat-tag' hurts deeply. Nightly despair quickly bleeds into the day's routine unless corrective action is taken. Each layer of fat added is measured in degrees of sadness whereas each layer lost causes disproportional elation..
Our self-esteem is badly damaged if we see our 'self' as anything other than 'up to scratch', being our self-measurement against others. We cannot all make millions but we can feel super-good about our 'self' and what we have achieved. So,where the 'fat tag' is concerned, we have to strip the fat and remove some of the lardy layers that weigh heavily on our minds.The trick is not to see our-self as impossibly overweight but possibly overweight. We can deal with 'possibly overweight' as that self-impression leaves the door open for improvement.
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