There are several ways to help your child change their attitude quickly and easily. I just want to touch upon one of them right now for you. You must take control as the parent.
Unfortunately not all parents assume this responsibility. We need to give specific directions instead of requesting things from our children. We need to show our children that we are the boss and we make up the rules. I don't mean in a mean way. You can do it in a nice way.
Once you sound like you are in control you are definitely on your way to being in control once again. And kids need to know that their parents are in charge. What's more, if you don't show the child that you are in charge the kids will often assume leadership for themselves by default, and you don't want that to happen.
When a child won't do you ask them to do, you need to get say to them, "what are you supposed to be doing?" Then you need to say to them, "then do it". This makes sure that the child knows exactly what they should be doing. Then there will be no excuses.
It can be disheartening when your child tries to engage in a power struggle with you about what they should or shouldn't be doing. But here is my recommendation: after you give them a firm request, turn around and walk away from them. This is disengaging and gives them no opportunity to talk back to you or try to negotiate.
If there is no-one there to argue with, chances are there will be no argument. And don't ever ask your child for an explanation as to why they haven't done something they should have done. This actually trains our kids to give us excuses for things and we don't want them to get used to giving excuses. If you don't ask your child for an excuse it is not likely they they will try to give you one.
So this is one very simple way to turn around your kid's attitude in less than one week. But always remember, change must start with the parent first, then the kid.
Unfortunately not all parents assume this responsibility. We need to give specific directions instead of requesting things from our children. We need to show our children that we are the boss and we make up the rules. I don't mean in a mean way. You can do it in a nice way.
Once you sound like you are in control you are definitely on your way to being in control once again. And kids need to know that their parents are in charge. What's more, if you don't show the child that you are in charge the kids will often assume leadership for themselves by default, and you don't want that to happen.
When a child won't do you ask them to do, you need to get say to them, "what are you supposed to be doing?" Then you need to say to them, "then do it". This makes sure that the child knows exactly what they should be doing. Then there will be no excuses.
It can be disheartening when your child tries to engage in a power struggle with you about what they should or shouldn't be doing. But here is my recommendation: after you give them a firm request, turn around and walk away from them. This is disengaging and gives them no opportunity to talk back to you or try to negotiate.
If there is no-one there to argue with, chances are there will be no argument. And don't ever ask your child for an explanation as to why they haven't done something they should have done. This actually trains our kids to give us excuses for things and we don't want them to get used to giving excuses. If you don't ask your child for an excuse it is not likely they they will try to give you one.
So this is one very simple way to turn around your kid's attitude in less than one week. But always remember, change must start with the parent first, then the kid.
About the Author:
James has a Master's in Social Work and works with troubled kids and teenagers. He runs a practice in the United States and gives parents strategies they need to facilitate changes in children for the better. His program, The Total Transformation Program will amaze you and change your life forever.
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