Guys love the thought of learning the tricks of the trade of the pick up artist. Learning that seducing a woman is a learned skill can have a profound, motivating impact on most men. But, like everyone including the master pick up artists, these men often don't think far enough down the road to wonder what will happen once they fall in love.
The prospect of falling in love for most guys getting involved in the game of the pick-up artist seems as far-fetched as the prospect of death to a twelve year old. But it inevitably happens. Consider Neil Strauss. Consider the main character in his non-fiction best-seller, Mystery (the book starts off with Mystery on the verge of suicide because he lost the woman he loves -- okay, I'm being dramatic). The point is, love happens to all of us whether we want it or not.
The challenge that most pick-up artists face, no matter how talented they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how to keep the woman they have fallen in love with. This is especially true for those of us who have learned our game from books and courses. The thing with these materials, though, is that they don't teach us how to engage in long-term relationships. We naively fall into the trap of becoming an "alpha male" and at the time, we do not care whatsoever about how to appreciate a woman. And even if we do know how, we usually know very little about the ways we are to maintain the appropriate level of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second tactic is introducing other types of excitement to the relationship. Even in the comfort level, we need to incorporate adventure. Not every night, or even once per week, but the idea of a spontaneous adventure once in a while keeps the relationship fresh and keeps her waiting for the "next time" something fun and out of the ordinary happens.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer.
The prospect of falling in love for most guys getting involved in the game of the pick-up artist seems as far-fetched as the prospect of death to a twelve year old. But it inevitably happens. Consider Neil Strauss. Consider the main character in his non-fiction best-seller, Mystery (the book starts off with Mystery on the verge of suicide because he lost the woman he loves -- okay, I'm being dramatic). The point is, love happens to all of us whether we want it or not.
The challenge that most pick-up artists face, no matter how talented they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how to keep the woman they have fallen in love with. This is especially true for those of us who have learned our game from books and courses. The thing with these materials, though, is that they don't teach us how to engage in long-term relationships. We naively fall into the trap of becoming an "alpha male" and at the time, we do not care whatsoever about how to appreciate a woman. And even if we do know how, we usually know very little about the ways we are to maintain the appropriate level of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second tactic is introducing other types of excitement to the relationship. Even in the comfort level, we need to incorporate adventure. Not every night, or even once per week, but the idea of a spontaneous adventure once in a while keeps the relationship fresh and keeps her waiting for the "next time" something fun and out of the ordinary happens.
Shifting roles from a someone who is great at seducing a woman to someone is fantastic at keeping a woman happy is never an easy one. It's like going from first gear to fourth -- not easy! The bottom line is that love makes it all worthwhile. You have no choice but to change if you want to keep the love. Remember who this woman fell in love with; an exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like the most special girl in the world. Keeping this image of yourself, the one you worked so hard to achieve, and recognizing that your tactics need to shift will help you avoid the fate that so many other pick-up artists' relationships suffer.
About the Author:
Daryl Duke offers an e-course for budding pick-up artists free of charge at SeductAnyWoman.com. His course isn't just about the pick-up. It teaches how to Find, Attract, and Keep the right woman.
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