The beginning stages of childhood are over. You all made it through in one piece. Through all the worrying about head lice and diapers, you survived it all, now you can celebrate.
Not quite. Thank your lucky stars that at least now you are getting a full night of sleep every night, because you are going to need it to cope with the road ahead. Just when you thought the tough part was behind you, it is only now just beginning but here are some basics to help get you through it all.
Defiance is something that they use to test the waters and learn the ropes, so expect it and don’t take it personally, it is a normal part of the process and will wear off in a few years. Stay calm. This is the best way to deal with a teen especially when they are upset. Talk slowly and use active listening to keep them on track.
Be prepared to ask questions, do not try the don't ask, don't tell gimmick. It is not good parenting to avoid problems or questions that are not comfortable for you. You will be able to handle problems that arise if you are honest.
The last and by far the most important rule for parenting a teenager is that your job is that of a parent and not a friend. You must continue to keep in mind that if they were old enough and had good enough judgment to take care of themselves than they wouldn't need a parent to care for them. Teens need guidance and support and they need a parent that is willing to say no even when it is an unpopular answer. Be brave parents and don't allow those teens to guilt you into anything. Think through your answers and stand firmly behind your decisions, no matter what they say or do, or threaten to say or do. Keep your cool and stand your ground.
Not quite. Thank your lucky stars that at least now you are getting a full night of sleep every night, because you are going to need it to cope with the road ahead. Just when you thought the tough part was behind you, it is only now just beginning but here are some basics to help get you through it all.
Defiance is something that they use to test the waters and learn the ropes, so expect it and don’t take it personally, it is a normal part of the process and will wear off in a few years. Stay calm. This is the best way to deal with a teen especially when they are upset. Talk slowly and use active listening to keep them on track.
Be prepared to ask questions, do not try the don't ask, don't tell gimmick. It is not good parenting to avoid problems or questions that are not comfortable for you. You will be able to handle problems that arise if you are honest.
The last and by far the most important rule for parenting a teenager is that your job is that of a parent and not a friend. You must continue to keep in mind that if they were old enough and had good enough judgment to take care of themselves than they wouldn't need a parent to care for them. Teens need guidance and support and they need a parent that is willing to say no even when it is an unpopular answer. Be brave parents and don't allow those teens to guilt you into anything. Think through your answers and stand firmly behind your decisions, no matter what they say or do, or threaten to say or do. Keep your cool and stand your ground.
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