If we're a bit low in the confidence area or suffer from some low self esteem, or simply get a bit flustered when browsing all the fabulous profiles out there - we may end up selling ourselves short. We may not be able to see our own gifts and skills. On the other hand we may try a bit too hard to impress, and end up creating false and fantasy versions of ourselves.
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
A little effort before hand can reap big rewards.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get Your Best Mug Shot - And Say Cheese
I could count on several hundred fingers the amount of profiles out there with the most suspect photographs.
You have been warned : I advise not taking a photograph of yourself if you are looking like a mess, tired, hung over, or not in a great mood.
The best photos include a head and shoulders shot, good lighting (ideally natural), and you with a big smile on your face. Don't be afraid of colour either. Wearing something bright and colourful will make your profile stand out and give you a bit of 'pizzazz'.
2. Stay Clear of 'Personal Ad' Lingo
Have you ever read these lovelies : "great personality", "wonderful woman", "loves eating out"
Sooo Boring!
Details and interesting details, are the life blood of your profile.
Revealing details about yourself, allows your viewers to form a multi-dimentional image of you. Therefore you appear far more memorable to them.
3. Give Me - Give Me- Give Me
Be clear what you want in a person and state it. Don't assume that people will work it out because they won't. The more clear you are with regard to your beloved the better and more targeted your responses will be.
If your imaging a mate like yourself - one in which you're both singing from the same hymm sheet - have the same desires, well mention that in your profile.
Don't risk being too general and grey or you will get far too many unsuitable responses.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
As tempting as it sounds, do not exaggerate yourself to epic proportions. You are not a movie script.
From my experience people are often way too subjective when describing their physical appearance. It is far better to stick your phot up and allow your viewers to assess your attractive to them and vice versa. Describing your self as "very attractive" won't wash immediately - especially if you haven't got your mug shot up.
Your mother may be singing your praises, but a "great person", one who "you will not regret meeting" with a "fantastic personality" is so 80's darling.
Reality check required.
5. Don't Forget The Fundamentals
I'm sure you'll agree - when forging new relationships, some essential fundamentals are required. Don't forget to mention your age, status - single, divorced, education level, and job.
Do not give any specifc information about yourself. This is for your safety.
6. Adding the Color to Your Life
Inspired persons, with conviction and purpose are always interesting to us.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Have a great big brain dump. Note all the weird and wonderful things that make You - You. Note your interests, talents, great smile, kindness, your passions and inspiration.
e.g. Doctor and Humanitarian - Big Kid , Young at Heart - Seeking Partner in Crime and Frolicks
7. Knock Yourself Out
Return to simplicy. Sometimes it's just the best way.
So keep your smarts about you, but don't forget - life was never meant to be hard. Keep it fun and light, and make it an opportunity to also learn and grow.
Life is hectic and complicated enough - so we don't often have all the time in the world to catch someone's interest.
A little effort before hand can reap big rewards.
So get started and write a great description of yourself. Try and be honest in terms of your positive points and your not so positive ones.
1. Get Your Best Mug Shot - And Say Cheese
I could count on several hundred fingers the amount of profiles out there with the most suspect photographs.
You have been warned : I advise not taking a photograph of yourself if you are looking like a mess, tired, hung over, or not in a great mood.
The best photos include a head and shoulders shot, good lighting (ideally natural), and you with a big smile on your face. Don't be afraid of colour either. Wearing something bright and colourful will make your profile stand out and give you a bit of 'pizzazz'.
2. Stay Clear of 'Personal Ad' Lingo
Have you ever read these lovelies : "great personality", "wonderful woman", "loves eating out"
Sooo Boring!
Details and interesting details, are the life blood of your profile.
Revealing details about yourself, allows your viewers to form a multi-dimentional image of you. Therefore you appear far more memorable to them.
3. Give Me - Give Me- Give Me
Be clear what you want in a person and state it. Don't assume that people will work it out because they won't. The more clear you are with regard to your beloved the better and more targeted your responses will be.
If your imaging a mate like yourself - one in which you're both singing from the same hymm sheet - have the same desires, well mention that in your profile.
Don't risk being too general and grey or you will get far too many unsuitable responses.
4. Tell Me No Lies or Porkies
As tempting as it sounds, do not exaggerate yourself to epic proportions. You are not a movie script.
From my experience people are often way too subjective when describing their physical appearance. It is far better to stick your phot up and allow your viewers to assess your attractive to them and vice versa. Describing your self as "very attractive" won't wash immediately - especially if you haven't got your mug shot up.
Your mother may be singing your praises, but a "great person", one who "you will not regret meeting" with a "fantastic personality" is so 80's darling.
Reality check required.
5. Don't Forget The Fundamentals
I'm sure you'll agree - when forging new relationships, some essential fundamentals are required. Don't forget to mention your age, status - single, divorced, education level, and job.
Do not give any specifc information about yourself. This is for your safety.
6. Adding the Color to Your Life
Inspired persons, with conviction and purpose are always interesting to us.
We love them because we can identify with some value or goal of theirs. We feel motivated and inspired by them.
Now it's your turn to look at your own life - and find the theme or flavour that's flowing through your stream.
Have a great big brain dump. Note all the weird and wonderful things that make You - You. Note your interests, talents, great smile, kindness, your passions and inspiration.
e.g. Doctor and Humanitarian - Big Kid , Young at Heart - Seeking Partner in Crime and Frolicks
7. Knock Yourself Out
Return to simplicy. Sometimes it's just the best way.
So keep your smarts about you, but don't forget - life was never meant to be hard. Keep it fun and light, and make it an opportunity to also learn and grow.
About the Author:
Hi I'm Rebecca Adams - and i've been giving relationship tips to singles and couples for 12 years. Whether your just starting a relationship, walking the dating minefield, or happily or unhappily married - there's something for you! Visit us and pick up your free Gift today : The 8 Keys to Having a Great Relationship Experience -- And Why it All Starts With YOU!
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