Men: What is the best relationship advice for you? What is it you need to know if you want your relationship to work long term? Sociologists give us some valuable insight.
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
A woman might say: I want a man who is a good listener. But she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or, she might say: The most important thing in a man is a sense of humor. But she only dates guys who have money.
Why do women say they want one thing in a man but actually go for just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies the relationship advice for men.
Sociologists tell us the reason men and women get together is to keep the human race going. In other words, pregnancy may be the last thing on her conscious mind, but when she evaluates a prospective husband on a subconscious level, she's looking for a good father. And that means someone who will provide for her children. She is looking for someone who she can rely on to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us that the average man can father children into his old age. A woman, however, has only about 400 chances of conceiving a baby during her menstrual years. Subconsciously she is looking for a man who can provide stability and longevity for her children. She evaluates a man based on this. A lawyer is a better choice than an unemployed artist. But she must also perceive that her man is generous with his resources thus assuring her he will provide for her children. This is one reason women place high value on gifts that show a generous spirit, such as jewelry.
This sheds some light on why the engagement ring must be a large purchase. An engagement ring is a tangible display that her man can provide for the family.
Also, women still subconsciously view an athletic man as a better provider than, say, a technical geek. Now we know in today's world more money can be made with brain than with brawn, but in the subconscious, women still feel otherwise.
So, the biggest piece of relationship advice sociologists have for men is to figure out, after thousands of years of conditioning, what women really want. And then give it to her.
Here is a piece of information for men that is of prime importance: Watch women's actions. It's not as important WHAT they say they want as it is what their ACTIONS say they want. Confused? It's not really confusing if you think about it. Let's use as an example the kind of man a woman chooses.
A woman might say: I want a man who is a good listener. But she chooses a man who dominates the conversation. Or, she might say: The most important thing in a man is a sense of humor. But she only dates guys who have money.
Why do women say they want one thing in a man but actually go for just the opposite? The answer to that question lies in the subconscious motivators for getting together. And, therein lies the relationship advice for men.
Sociologists tell us the reason men and women get together is to keep the human race going. In other words, pregnancy may be the last thing on her conscious mind, but when she evaluates a prospective husband on a subconscious level, she's looking for a good father. And that means someone who will provide for her children. She is looking for someone who she can rely on to bring home the bacon.
Sociologists teach us that the average man can father children into his old age. A woman, however, has only about 400 chances of conceiving a baby during her menstrual years. Subconsciously she is looking for a man who can provide stability and longevity for her children. She evaluates a man based on this. A lawyer is a better choice than an unemployed artist. But she must also perceive that her man is generous with his resources thus assuring her he will provide for her children. This is one reason women place high value on gifts that show a generous spirit, such as jewelry.
This sheds some light on why the engagement ring must be a large purchase. An engagement ring is a tangible display that her man can provide for the family.
Also, women still subconsciously view an athletic man as a better provider than, say, a technical geek. Now we know in today's world more money can be made with brain than with brawn, but in the subconscious, women still feel otherwise.
So, the biggest piece of relationship advice sociologists have for men is to figure out, after thousands of years of conditioning, what women really want. And then give it to her.
About the Author:
Antonio MacGynn contributes to About the Family, a website on family relationships. He has learned that most broken relationships can be repaired, but can't be done without understanding the subconscious motivators that get couples together. Unfortunately, most people who want to repair their relationships instinctively do exactly the wrong thing. Avoid the wrong steps and Repair the Relationship.
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