One of my friends has found herself in a sticky situation: she's dating two men whom she met at the same time. One fits the stereotype of a true romantic, one who can provide her with a secure and loving relationship. The second is a divorced man whom my friend is falling in love with. He's happy, down to earth and easygoing.
The problem with Alan, however, is that although his ex-wife is remarried, he still sees and supports her. Malen has told me that she would choose Alan over Melvin but wants him to stop having communication with his ex-wife. She feels that since their divorce is final, he shouldn't need to support her.
There is now a strain on their relationship since Malen has expressed her wishes to Melvin and he feels that Malen should understand and accept him. They clearly care for each other and don't really want to end things. When one of them would try to break it off, the other would argue not to give up and now it seems to be a cycle.
And when both of them (Malen and Melvin) are not in good terms, Malen will tell me that she would marry Melvin and it makes me really mat at my friend. I always admonish her to follow her heart and give an unconditional love towards Melvin.
I just feel that to put demands on someone, especially at the start of a relationship, is pretty selfish. I think if Malen accepts the fact that Alan still has a relationship with his ex-wife, things will work out. She should realize that things will change since Alan is willing to work at it. They both just need time and eventually Alan will give Malen all the love she wants.
I believe that Malen and Alan's situation will improve greatly if Malen stops being so stubborn in her ways and realizes that Alan can prove his love for her without following all of her unreasonable demands. Because of her unwillingness to see things any way but hers, they fight frequently for silly reasons. It accomplishes absolutely nothing and wastes time.
There are a lot of people who are in a similar situation. If there's just a little more understanding, real love can be attained. Malen and Alan can create memorable situations instead of destroying potential good situations if she lets Alan have his time. This applies to all relationships: understanding leads to clarity and growth.
The problem with Alan, however, is that although his ex-wife is remarried, he still sees and supports her. Malen has told me that she would choose Alan over Melvin but wants him to stop having communication with his ex-wife. She feels that since their divorce is final, he shouldn't need to support her.
There is now a strain on their relationship since Malen has expressed her wishes to Melvin and he feels that Malen should understand and accept him. They clearly care for each other and don't really want to end things. When one of them would try to break it off, the other would argue not to give up and now it seems to be a cycle.
And when both of them (Malen and Melvin) are not in good terms, Malen will tell me that she would marry Melvin and it makes me really mat at my friend. I always admonish her to follow her heart and give an unconditional love towards Melvin.
I just feel that to put demands on someone, especially at the start of a relationship, is pretty selfish. I think if Malen accepts the fact that Alan still has a relationship with his ex-wife, things will work out. She should realize that things will change since Alan is willing to work at it. They both just need time and eventually Alan will give Malen all the love she wants.
I believe that Malen and Alan's situation will improve greatly if Malen stops being so stubborn in her ways and realizes that Alan can prove his love for her without following all of her unreasonable demands. Because of her unwillingness to see things any way but hers, they fight frequently for silly reasons. It accomplishes absolutely nothing and wastes time.
There are a lot of people who are in a similar situation. If there's just a little more understanding, real love can be attained. Malen and Alan can create memorable situations instead of destroying potential good situations if she lets Alan have his time. This applies to all relationships: understanding leads to clarity and growth.
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