Look at me: I ve got a case of body language, Freddie Mercury
How to flirt with your body? Human communication conveys 7% of information through the meaning of words, 38% of information is passed through intonation and pace of speech, and 55% of information is admitted only with the aid of mimics and gestures. So that is the case of body language. How can we use it in order to understand the others and being understood? How can we arouse an interest in another person by using body language? Freddie got it right: this is a language for eyes, not ears.
Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye - middle space - right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.
A joyful, flirting chattering makes the eye scan area even wider. This time, especially if any sexual interest is present, the center of the area will be at the lips of the person you are talking with. So, if a person you are talking to seemingly cannot lift his (or her) eyes from your lips, you better know this person is likely already kissing you in his (or her) imagination. How far you want to proceed in reality will be now up to you, since you already got the signals.
Do it as I do. What makes a difference between light flirting and strong desire in a body language terms? If you are really want to get involved with him or her, mimic the object of your desire. When someone behaves similarly to us, we conclude that we have a lot in common with that person. Of course, avoid imitating any negative features of this person, because such mimicking will easily turn into a mockery. In other words, mimic must be moderate, total copycatting will not do any good for you. Even if you are copying the gestures of a person, always take a minute pause before you do your part.
Say Hi with your eyebrows. Lifting eyebrows is one of the most ancient ways of showing friendliness to another person. If you are getting the same in reply, the feelings are mutual. Maybe this was a greeting of our forbears when they were passing each other caves? Languages came later. Now you can use this old way of winning sympathy.
Follow the eye sight. One of the most general and clear statements of body language is watching motion of another person. If you do so, you must have an interest toward this person. If that person notices your gaze and moves toward you: the feelings are mutual. This might be a good moment to switch from body language to a real conversation.
You have got a Wink! If you ever dated online, you might know what this means. Same is in a real word: wink is a universal sign of attraction. Want to attract this girl (boy): wink to her (him). Getting a wink back? Good sign, maybe you can start speaking now.
How to flirt with your body? Human communication conveys 7% of information through the meaning of words, 38% of information is passed through intonation and pace of speech, and 55% of information is admitted only with the aid of mimics and gestures. So that is the case of body language. How can we use it in order to understand the others and being understood? How can we arouse an interest in another person by using body language? Freddie got it right: this is a language for eyes, not ears.
Looking in the eyes. When we are engaged in a business conversation, we are usually focused, and it feels like we are looking straight into the eyes of our counterpart. In reality our eyes cannot stay fixed, they scan the face of a person along a tight closed path: left eye - middle space - right eye, and so on. When we are more relaxed, like, for example, we are talking with a friend, eyes still follow the cyclic path, but it is not that tight anymore. Our eyes scanning his (or her) face along an upset triangle with a base slightly below the eye-line and the vertex at the person mouth.
A joyful, flirting chattering makes the eye scan area even wider. This time, especially if any sexual interest is present, the center of the area will be at the lips of the person you are talking with. So, if a person you are talking to seemingly cannot lift his (or her) eyes from your lips, you better know this person is likely already kissing you in his (or her) imagination. How far you want to proceed in reality will be now up to you, since you already got the signals.
Do it as I do. What makes a difference between light flirting and strong desire in a body language terms? If you are really want to get involved with him or her, mimic the object of your desire. When someone behaves similarly to us, we conclude that we have a lot in common with that person. Of course, avoid imitating any negative features of this person, because such mimicking will easily turn into a mockery. In other words, mimic must be moderate, total copycatting will not do any good for you. Even if you are copying the gestures of a person, always take a minute pause before you do your part.
Say Hi with your eyebrows. Lifting eyebrows is one of the most ancient ways of showing friendliness to another person. If you are getting the same in reply, the feelings are mutual. Maybe this was a greeting of our forbears when they were passing each other caves? Languages came later. Now you can use this old way of winning sympathy.
Follow the eye sight. One of the most general and clear statements of body language is watching motion of another person. If you do so, you must have an interest toward this person. If that person notices your gaze and moves toward you: the feelings are mutual. This might be a good moment to switch from body language to a real conversation.
You have got a Wink! If you ever dated online, you might know what this means. Same is in a real word: wink is a universal sign of attraction. Want to attract this girl (boy): wink to her (him). Getting a wink back? Good sign, maybe you can start speaking now.
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