Breaking up during the holidays is especially hard. There are parties and get-togethers, and everyone will want to know why you're not together anymore. It's even worse when it wasn't your decision, and all you want to do is be back together again.
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
The first thing I'm going to recommend might be hard to do - but trust me, it's one of the best moves you can make right now. Even if you don't really believe it, tell your ex that they were right to suggest the breakup. Explain that you realize the relationship had some problems, and that the split is probably for the best.
This may seem like strange advice, especially if all you really want is to get back together. That's why it's such an important first step. It takes the power away from your ex, because they aren't necessarily in charge of things anymore. More than likely, the last thing they expect you to do is agree with them.
Next, you need to take advantage of this time apart. Don't spend hours and hours brooding about the breakup and what you should have done differently. Go out and have some fun. Get together with old friends. Meet new people.
Spending this time with other people will give you a new perspective on things. You'll know if you really do want to try to get back together with your ex... or if you're ready to move on.
If you find that you really do want to reunite with your ex, pay close attention to this next step. It's very important.
You're going to need to find out how your ex feels. Chances are, they are missing you as much as you're missing them. Even so, you don't want to run over and beg them to take you back. You need to take things slowly, and stay in control.
Here's why I say that...
When you see your ex again, you want to be friendly, but you also want to play it cool. Even play a little "hard-to-get" right now. Let them see that you're doing great on your own. If they are still wondering if they made the right move, this will make a big impression. They will probably start to rethink things. They may even make a move to reconcile!
If you follow these three steps - agree with the breakup, spend time having fun with friends, and then be friendly but a little bit hard-to-get - you'll improve your chances to get back with your ex this holiday season. If it doesn't work, it probably wasn't meant to be anyways. And you will have had some fun over the holidays, made some new friends, and walked away from the relationship with your dignity intact.
If you are trying to deal with a breakup right now, keep your chin up. Here are three steps to help you get through the upcoming holidays. Pay close attention, because making the right moves now can go a long way towards getting back together again.
The first thing I'm going to recommend might be hard to do - but trust me, it's one of the best moves you can make right now. Even if you don't really believe it, tell your ex that they were right to suggest the breakup. Explain that you realize the relationship had some problems, and that the split is probably for the best.
This may seem like strange advice, especially if all you really want is to get back together. That's why it's such an important first step. It takes the power away from your ex, because they aren't necessarily in charge of things anymore. More than likely, the last thing they expect you to do is agree with them.
Next, you need to take advantage of this time apart. Don't spend hours and hours brooding about the breakup and what you should have done differently. Go out and have some fun. Get together with old friends. Meet new people.
Spending this time with other people will give you a new perspective on things. You'll know if you really do want to try to get back together with your ex... or if you're ready to move on.
If you find that you really do want to reunite with your ex, pay close attention to this next step. It's very important.
You're going to need to find out how your ex feels. Chances are, they are missing you as much as you're missing them. Even so, you don't want to run over and beg them to take you back. You need to take things slowly, and stay in control.
Here's why I say that...
When you see your ex again, you want to be friendly, but you also want to play it cool. Even play a little "hard-to-get" right now. Let them see that you're doing great on your own. If they are still wondering if they made the right move, this will make a big impression. They will probably start to rethink things. They may even make a move to reconcile!
If you follow these three steps - agree with the breakup, spend time having fun with friends, and then be friendly but a little bit hard-to-get - you'll improve your chances to get back with your ex this holiday season. If it doesn't work, it probably wasn't meant to be anyways. And you will have had some fun over the holidays, made some new friends, and walked away from the relationship with your dignity intact.
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